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Afraid to be off topic and want to have more fun with your date?

Want to take the opportunity to create romance and get closer? Share suitable dating topics here for your reference!

The first concept you need to understand is this: Don't stop your mouth when dating.

This does not mean to teach you to eat hard, but to make the conversation between the two smooth, you come and go, don't stand there and don't talk, the only exception is when you hug or kiss (but this time is whispering "you're so cute" in her ear is still better than not speaking).

Why don't you stop your mouth? Girls are born to be talkative. No matter how taciturn women are, there is always a noisy little girl inside, who can’t help but communicate their emotions and feelings with others.
It's normal for two men to take the same elevator, or to urinate on the toilet, or to sit and eat together without talking, but two women do anything together, as long as they don't talk, you can definitely speculate that there is a knot between them, Or there is a big hatred (even if girls have a relationship with each other, they usually still talk).

If you go out with your date today and don't speak for most of the time, no matter how much you personally enjoy the date and how much fun the process is, your date will definitely think, "Why don't I talk to him? "
"Aren't we getting along very well?"

The formula for girls' brains to calculate relationships is actually very intuitive: chatting = getting along.

If you don't talk on a date, there's a good chance the other person is racking their brains thinking, "What should I talk to you about?"
If the other person finally brings up a topic, and you accidentally ignore it, or end the topic in a hurry, and can't bring up a new one, you will definitely not have another date.

The girl thought: "This date is embarrassing enough, it's better not to meet again."

For them, it is very embarrassing not to speak, and they wish to have something to talk about all the time.

Some girls are with her. If you don't talk, in order to fill the gap in the dialogue, she will keep complaining and throwing her emotions to you. It's not her fault, it's just because she doesn't know what to talk to you about Do this.

There are also many beautiful girls who are used to boys to please them and open up topics, and their ability to open up topics by themselves is close to zero. If you don't take the initiative, they really don't know how to speak.

If you can have a concept and structure of the direction of the chat topic, it will be easier for you to open the topic and guide the chat. Please read the following topics first for reference:

1.your future

Talk about what you think about your future, what you want to do, your goals, and what inspires you.
Girls will like guys who know their future and work hard (though not yet).

Please speak with your own natural and enthusiastic emotions, after all, that is your future! The goals are not always lofty,
But as long asYour goals are meaningful to you and worth pursuing, and girls will appreciate your determination.

2.her interests, friends, family

Talk to her about her interests, what does she like to do when she has nothing to do?
If you have common interests, you can share a lot of experience with each other; if not, it's good to know a little about her preferences.

Ask her how many good friends are there, and how good are you with her? Where do you like to go with your best friends?

Ask her if she prefers her father or mother? Why? Who do you feel more like?

If you're not familiar yet, you'll need to tell a story about yourself before asking her. (Please refer to the last paragraph of this article.)

3.her view of life

Many girls are actually very thoughtful, but unfortunately boys usually only see her appearance.

Ask her about her plans for the future, what she thinks is the most important thing in life, and if she even thinks about the meaning of life?
This kind of thing that you rarely talk to others, sometimes because you ask in the right tone at the right time,
Let her talk, and she'll be very impressed with you.

Of course, don't take this type of topic too seriously, take it easy, if you see the other person frowning and can't answer,
You also have to help her round things up and change the subject.

4.gossip

Ask her if she's the gossip girl, or the most exaggerated gossip you've heard in the workplace (school).

You can also use news or celebrity gossip as a topic, like what does she think about X's knife?
What would she say if she was an X knife?

Needless to say, you have to prepare the answer yourself before throwing it out.

5.your little secret

Do you have any little secrets that you don't normally tell people?

Tell your date that she'll feel flattered that you're willing to trust her, and then there's a good chance she'll exchange little secrets with you, which is a great way to interact.

Little secrets can start with associations, for example, you say, "Oh my God~ You know, I suddenly thought of the exam papers when I was a child when I saw this menu... I don't know why I suddenly thought of this, you want to hear my previous A secret?"

6. your childhood & past

Many childhood stories are funny and full of awkward or heartwarming moments.
You can talk about your first love, the elementary school teacher you secretly had a crush on, or the embarrassing things that happened to you,
These are very good relationship-boosting topics.

7. Have a holiday!

You can talk about the most interesting and impressive travel experiences or meeting places, or stories about traveling abroad,
Any fun thing, as long as it has something to do with holidays, is fine. After all, who doesn't like holidays?

You can also chat about new movies recently, where new restaurants are, what fun things to do,
Then discuss when to go together.

8. praise her

This is not a topic, but if you like her very much, you must be at the right time,
Hint her to let her imagine you.

9. her passion

Enthusiasm is a bit like hobby, but hobby is just a leisure thing you like to do.
Enthusiasm is what she loves and does with a purpose, perhaps with some ideals or ambitions behind it. Some girls have it, some girls don't. If there is, care about what she loves, let her talk about it, and then praise her enthusiasm, you will see her eyes light up talking to you.

Use this topic with care to be sincere in your curiosity and compliments, as superficiality can be counterproductive.

10. evil thoughts

It's just talking shit. It usually starts after you have physical contact, some boys can successfully touchdown,
The relationship has not lasted for a long time, please make more use of such topics.

There are also some girls who start to want to talk about erotic topics after having intimate contact with you, but don't let her down.

The simplest example is: "Want to...want..." "...you"

"Today at work... I just think of you, OO is XX..."

It is a pity that this article will not continue to share this part due to the scale relationship.

11. surroundings

Pay attention to what's special around you, and tell her what you think is special.
You can pack your own story, a humorous approach, or a different idea into even the mundane stuff.

Let's say, for example, a knife and fork on the dining room table, say:
"If this pair of knives and forks is a couple, who do you think is a boy and who is a girl?"

Or say that you have been trying to develop your left and right brain potential for a while, writing with your left hand (your non-dominant hand),
The story of how smart you become after you cut steak with your left hand.

chat dynamics

After reading the above categories of dating topics, there are a lot of things to talk about all of a sudden,
But there are a few key points that must be shared with you.

The most misunderstood part of chatting by newbies is that "I just need to keep talking and keep talking".
Usually talking all the time will only happen in the first 5 minutes of the first meeting, or the first 10 minutes of the appointment.

During this period, manygirls are shy, observe her expression a little, maybe you can find her eyes twinkling and her lips tightly closed, this is a nervous expression,This is your time to act and tell your story.

No matter which topic you use,Your duty is to relax her with a story, forget nervousness.
The better your story, the easier it will be for her to get into the conversation.
Slowly when she starts to smile, invite her to say something and share a little bit of her story.

As she talks more and more, you can start asking her more in-depth things like what she likes and cares about, and then share their experiences with each other. When you ask about the more personal and private things, you usually start by telling some small stories about yourself. For example, if you want to talk about your family, you will first tell your dad what happened last week, and then ask her if she is dating her dad. dear, this isThe concept of throwing bricks and attracting jade.

Just touch on the things she likes and values, and her chatterbox will open, but you have to get your own chatterbox open before that. It is recommended that you make a phone call to a good friend 20 minutes before the date in the future, so as to cultivate the feeling of chatting and talking.

Chatting is very different from performing arts in that chatting is always bidirectional and requires two people to participate together.
If you can identify with this concept, you will love it"Chat A Cafe", all the ways in which the topic is used and extended are included, including manyTopics skills, topic switching, and conversational directionThe secret to...even howPackaging your story.

Chatting is a skill that is always learned through failure, but standing on the shoulders of others allows you to see farther and learn faster. We look forward to all friends making proper use of these resources, and let our wisdom be the cornerstone of your success.